Thursday, April 30, 2009
I have spent a large part of this afternoon winking at anyone and everyone that I think is cute. Let me tell you something friends...there are no small amount of handsome men in North Carolina. I mentioned that previously, but after using the "Mutual Matches" function it has been confirmed. WOWSERS!
I can't even give you a run down of who I have winked at though. Why you ask? Well, it's because I've winked at so many men today my eye is sore, and I can't even remember who is who!
I hope I have some interesting e-mails/return winks to share with you tomorrow. AND...I'm still trying to figure out how to tell you a story. I've written it twice, but both times it comes out all wrong. MK is helping me. Perhaps tomorrow I will get it together?
Off to get a mani & pedi!
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
Tuesday, April 28, 2009
(Our "somewhat grown up" spot)
(It was this guy's birthday. We wore this sweater all day in celebration.)
However, the lesson to be learned here my friends is to READ SOMEONE'S PROFILE CAREFULLY! Had I followed this little lesson, I would have noticed the following immediately:
"I like animals, but the horses and cows are not allowed in the TV room. They block the tv and eat my popcorn."
Huh? What horses and cows?
Being affectionate and slow wet passionate kisses with the right women! "
Oh gosh. SLOW-WET-PASSIONATE........STOP!
I can't even bring myself to tell you about the other "people" in my inbox. One guy professes that he is so well known in Smalltown, VA that he can't really go anywhere without being noticed. Funny thing is...I've never seen him before. Or, heard of him for that matter! Overinflated ego anyone?
The other guy....he's 50.
So, for the first time in.....EVER....my MDC inbox is empty. I'm not sure how I feel about it. Kindove relieved. Kindove sad. Maybe it's time for me to start the search?? My girlfriend Efficient With Glasses (EWG) informed me that I was really missing the boat with this MDC thing. She says that letting THEM contact ME is fine, but certainly not the only way MDC works. She says that I need to do a search, and I need to start winking like a wild woman. I know my friend Daisy has done this, so maybe EWG is on to something??
Step #1...I take a gander at those who have "viewed my profile". Perhaps that's where all the good ones are?? Perhaps they just aren't winking/e-mailing me? Ummmm....no. The first guy has one picture. He's driving his little Toyota truck, with his kitty cat on his lap. He's clutching her like she's attempting to escape from said Toyota truck. (I don't blame her!). He professes that he loves Wal-mart. The End. I don't think we need to read any more from this pile.
Step #2....I'm going to check out my Daily 5. I know, I know...it's a joke. Let's just give it the ol' college try though...shall we? Well...I don't know a lot about football, but I'm pretty sure my first Daily 5 match isn't making a lot of sense here: "I'm a big Redskins fan, go Tarheels". Isn't that two different teams? Aren't the Redskins in Washington? AND....the Tarheels....I'm pretty sure that's UNC? My second Daily 5 match is hot. Pure and simple truth my friends. He's hot. He's blunt, and a bit witty, and I've checked the YES button. The down side is...he lives in NC somewhere. Oh well...if he's interested he can drive up here:) My third Daily 5 match is pretty cute too! He sounds trés intellectual, which I kindove find sexy. I checked the YES button for him as well, but he also lives in NC. Seeing a trend here? Perhaps DSS needs to move to NC eh? My fourth Daily 5 doesn't have a picture. NEXT! Oh. Wait. My Daily 5 only has 4 people. Now that can't be a good thing. A sign perhaps? Hmmmm....
Step #3....I'm doing a search. I'm just going to go for it friends. Why take things one step at a time? I say just jump in with both feet. I'm taking control of this little experiment and I'm going to see what's what. STOP. The search. It wasn't very productive. I got through 3 pages. They were worse than the matches in my inbox. I'm taking a break for today.
Perhaps tomorrow will be better?
Friday, April 24, 2009
One of my new followers is Beth Dunn, the author of Social Climbers. I have heard many things about this book, and actually think I first stumbled across it on someone's blog. At the time it hadn't been released, but now it has!! Beth also has a blog called Social Climbers, and I was perusing it today and came across her abbreviated "Dictionary". I LOVE IT. Beth uses her dictionary to label the Real Housewives of NYC and it's hysterical. So.....I thought I would try to figure out how I would be described. The terms certainly aren't all very nice, and unfortunately I probably fall in some of the less lovely categories at times. However, overall I think I am a mixture of quite a few of them.
Smalltown, VA is certainly no Philadelphia, but we do have a bit of a social order here. Mostly everyone knows everyone, but we don't all "interact" if you will. I kindove come from a snooty background, and when I moved here I decided to try just being myself. Not being "the child of such and such". I think that has landed me right where I want to be:)
That's in "real life". In "blog life" I think my Social Standing (SS) is still Social Climber(SC), and probably a bit Middle Class (MC). At times, when I'm rehashing my dates, I'm probably a bit of an Uber Bitch (UB). I am definitely a Daddy's Little Girl (DLG) at heart, but have tried not to show it since I've moved to Smalltown, VA. I'm still striving to be Having it All (IT), and hope that one day my little blog will be Already There (AT).
Anyway, there's a little fun for you on this Friday afternoon, and I do hope you will visit Beth's Blog Social Climbers, and even purchase THE BOOK!
Thursday, April 23, 2009
So, J...the one that DID count. Not so much. He sent me a text Saturday after he got home from the event where we met. Said he enjoyed meeting me. Asked if he could call me. I said I enjoyed meeting him too, and yes...I would very much like him to call. THE END.
I got home from work today and my fabulous "The Tide Will Turn" necklace arrived in the mail. There is nothing better than arriving home to find a little present for yourself, is there? It's almost like Christmas...except you paid. Anyway, I was putting it on (because I am going to wear it nonstop until the tide DOES indeed turn) and it hit me. OMG. J never called. I've been ditched. I've been blown off. He doesn't like me. Ouch!
I've been so busy this week that I hadn't really thought about it. Until now. Until I was tying the precious little charm around my neck, thinking that perhaps the tide has turned for me and SLAM! It hits me that the tide is still flowing the exact same direction, and the necklace could not have arrived at a better time.
It's also kindove cool. That someone didn't like me. I know that sounds ridiculous, but when most of your dates come from MDC...it's really not surprising. I feel a bit like the playing field has now been leveled. It sucks, but you know what.....
1. Respond and rework: answer the questions on your blog, replace one question that you dislike with a question of your own invention, add one more question of your own.
2. tag other un-tagged people.
What is your current obsession? Blogging...apparently...
What do you think your name says about you? That I was supposed to be a boy.
Who was the last person you hugged? Hmmmm......probably TEN? I'm not a big hugger. (good thing TEN came along though...or my last hug may have been Lehrer. Yikes!)
What’s your favorite dinner? Filet Oskar with a side of asparagus. Yummmmmm....
What was the last thing you bought? A spray tan
What are you listening to right now? Smalltown, VA's local radio station
What is your favorite weather? The time right after Spring, but right before Summer. It's like 2 days long and the weather is perfect. You can wear a sundress, but not get too hot...even in the middle of the afternoon. It's the perfect time to sit on patios and enjoy mint juleps, or mohitos, or some such cocktail.
What is your least favorite season? Winter. I don't understand how to accessorize properly with winter clothes.
What's in your bathroom cabinet? The regular. Lotions and potions and band-aids and q-tips and ACE bandages, and such.
Say something to the person/s who tagged you. PITBA...I'm so glad we've found each other! (hahaha..that sounded corny). Anyway, our love of pink and green, our search for a deserving man, our love of nutcrackers, our addiction to blogging...what can I say?
What is your favorite tea flavor? Sweet-Iced. Is that a flavor?
What did you want to become as a child? A veterinarian
What do you miss? My dad
What's your favorite brand of jeans? I'm still a Seven girl. Have lots of others, but Seven A-pockets were made for me.
What designer piece of clothing would you most like to own (new or vintage)? Does a purse count? If so...a Classic Chanel Black Quilted Lambskin Double Flap 2.55 bag :)
If you could go anywhere in the world for the next hour, where would you go? Back to the Cinque Terre. Vernazza specifically. It would be a beautiful day to sit under the castle on the wall and watch the fishermen :)
Who do you want to meet in person? Can they be dead? If so...F. Scott Fitzgerald. If not....um...Mr. Seersucker?
What is your most challenging goal right now? To not quit my job by just walking out the door...today
What’s your 5 year plan? To be doing something different in 5 years. Sorry. That's about all I've got at the moment.
Bonanno's or Jack Rogers? Bonanno's!
What is my favourite sport to watch? Virginia Tech Football!
To play? Tennis
What is your favorite piece of jewelry that you own? My Cartier Love Bracelet. I didn't even take if off for my spray tan :)
Now it's my turn to tag people. If I've tagged you and you've already been tagged in the recent past, please forgive me :) I tried to do a little research, but I may have missed it. I tag:
A FUNNY THING HAPPENED ON THE WAY HOME...
All Things Melia
An American Girl in London
Bonanno's or barefoot!
Living Under the Big Star
MINDLESS MUSINGS ON MY AVERAGE LIFE
My Blog (Doesn't Suck!)
my flip flopz
The Pure and Simple Truth
WENDY'S ADVENTURES IN LALALAND
Where is my Purse?
As a side note...I'm not really sure why I've even tagged All Things Melia & Where is my Purse?, as they never play along! Please be sure to click over to their blog and cyber smack them for me, won't you?
I love it. Have loved it for a long time. Now it's on the radio all day long. They are killing it, and I'm sad :( Oh well....
Wednesday, April 22, 2009
Geeezzzz...this must be the month for repeat offenders! This story is a bit different than The Bang Flipper, but still....just as funny. Do you remember Nathaniel Alexander Sinclair III? If not, you can read about him HERE and HERE. One of my girlfriends thought Nathaniel Alexander Sinclair III sounded like a great catch, and couldn't understand what was SO WRONG with his face. I asked her if she wanted me to give him her e-mail. She said sure. So, I did. I did this in my "sorry, I don't think we are going to work out" e-mail, thinking that it would soften the blow a bit. He never responded. He also never e-mailed my girlfriend. I'm pretty sure that was a good thing for her :)
Fast forward to today when I find him sitting in my MDC inbox. What in the world? Well, guess what! He now wants to e-mail said girlfriend, and would like to know if he could have her e-mail address again. WHAT?!??! That was like TWO MONTHS AGO. She is so in a relationship with a great guy now, and so not interested in meeting Nathaniel Alexander Sinclair III.
What gives? Do guys really think there are that many great girls out there that they can just sit around for 2 months, and then consider e-mailing them? Uggggh! So, I replied to him and told him, nicely of course, that said girlfriend was in a great relationship now and would not be interested in hearing from him. I also wished him the best of luck in his search, and said goodbye. Good riddance!
(Isn't this THE BEST pic for No Repeat Offenders? It cracks me up!)
I'm not sure what to make of this one. His stats are good, but he opens with the following:
"About me: far from perfect. Who I’m looking for: perfect."
That's a bit annoying, wouldn't you say? Then, he's sent an e-mail:
"I know I have seen you here before, but I don't know why I haven't written to you before now. I can definately relate to much of what you have to say in your profile, and I apprerciate a well-spoken woman with a nice smile! I would like to know more..."
Well, that's nice enough. He's divorced, but no kids. He's only 5'10", which is a major downer, and will probably end up being the deciding factor. His pictures are......well....hard to judge, I'd say. In 2 he looks lovely. In 2 he looks OK. In one he looks like a full on redneck with a HUGE tattoo on his chest, no shirt, wearing khakis and boots and tilting his head back while (I believe) shotgunning a beer? He used to be a construction worker. He's now gone back to school and earned his masters, and is doing something medical. I just don't know. He's obviously very smart....well, then again from some things he says I'm under the impression that he earned that medical degree in the Caribbean. That's never a good sign. Hmph. I don't know. Let me think on this one.
(This is my NEW question mark! Isn't it precious? Thanks MK!)
Okay, so he didn't graduate from college. AND....he doesn't make much money. BUT...he's a fireman for heaven's sake! AND...he's 6'0". That counts for something, right? He's also a few years older than me AND...has never been married.
Here's the deal. Again. Conflicting pictures. He's posted about 20 of them. In about six of them I want to do nothing but look at him, and smile at him, and date him and....... you get the point. In the rest he appears to be varying ages from THE HOT SIX to OLD. So, if he can look that old in some pics he can't look like the hot guy, right? Or, maybe that's his dad? I'm being completely serious here people. It just doesn't add up! In one pic he's at the firehouse wearing his little fireproof pants and boots, or whatever, with those yellow suspenders that hold those pants up. He has on a red t-shirt, and he looks absolutely adorable! Next picture....sitting in a rocking chair of sorts with a beer gut and grey hair. Same person? You tell me.
Here is his e-mail:
"Check out my profile and let me know if you would like to start a converstation."
Well, that's short and to the point isn't it? Hmmmmm.....I wonder if this is another case of The Bang Flipper not posting all current pictures? Is it awful to reply to his e-mail saying "Pardon me. I'm just wondering...which of your pictures do you most currently resemble?". Seriously. Is that bad? Because it will be a deal breaker if he's the grey haired guy with the beer gut. BUT....if he's the hot fireman with dark brown hair, a flat belly, big brown eyes, etc......I want to meet him for drinks.
****Disclaimer - I am so tired right now that my head is about to fall on my keyboard. Please excuse any poor grammar, misspellings, etc. I almost didn't post this tonight b/c I suspect it is riddled with horrible errors, but I'm doing it anyway. This whole MDC thing can be tiresome :(
and I've been busy planning, packing, etc. I also went tanning tonight. Not regular tanning, mind you, but I tried the Versa Spa tan. I'm not really sure what to do with myself at the moment. I'm drying. Yes, I'm drying. Apparently this process takes place for 4-6 hours. I'm kindove a motivated person, and "drying" for 4-6 hours doesn't really work for me. Then again, I'm paranoid that if I move I will probably smear it or something? I also got swindled into buying some product that the woman told me would make me "glow". I just read the bottle. It says: "Look Great Naked". I'm pretty sure I just threw my money away.
Back to the steeplechase. Good times! It's in Charlottesville, VA and I go every year. It is called The Foxfield Races or Foxfield for short. So...why do so many people call it Foxfields? It bugs me. Like really, really bugs me. It's like when the rednecks living on the outskirts of Smalltown, VA say "hey now, I was over at the Walmarts today and such and such". Wal-mart isn't plural. Neither is Foxfield. You may think I'm being petty, but can I help it if my skin crawls when people say "hey T...are you going to Foxfields?". This has bothered me for years, as I've been attending this event since college.
I used to think that being in the infield at Foxfield was the best thing ever. Now I think it's too crowded. Nice to visit, but not where I want to land if you will. We've relocated our spot to the "somewhat grown up" section. Not so much the "really grown up section", where they supply you with tents and tables and servers and such. I'm saving that for when Mr. Seersucker and I make our first million. For now we are somewhere in the middle, and we bring our own tent and try to act grown up....but we still play flip cup :)
Anyway, I'm super excited about this weekend and haven't even logged onto MDC because I've so much other stuff going on, AND THEN.......I check my e-mail and there is a little note from a VERY cute face. So now I'm going to log in and see what this chap is all about and I'll be back to let you know :)
I love this bag. It's white, navy & gold, which in my book is as classic as you can get. Hmmmmm.....Oh god! They have it in red patent as well. Uggghhh....
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
Monday, April 20, 2009
I purchased the cutest dress (or so I thought) to wear to said birthday party. Once I got myself together Saturday and donned what I thought was the cutest dress..........I had a realization. I looked like a retiree living in Naples, FL named Gladys. Uggghh! (How could I not have tried this dress on before the day of the event?!??!!) I didn't have any time to put together another outfit, so I took off feeling frumpy AND hungover.
The party was lovely, and I had the chance to catch up with some old friends and meet some new ones too! Birthday Girl's boyfriend had mentioned a few weeks ago that he had invited a guy to come to the party, and he thought this guy and I would hit it off. I had completely forgotten this conversation. So, when BG's boyfriend says "T, what do you think of J?" I'm a bit taken aback. You see....J is also TEN's real name.
I explained that I thought he was precious, but a bit young for me. BG's boyfriend doesn't understand. I don't understand why he doesn't understand. Eventually I come to the realization that the guy I have been talking to all afternoon is in fact the guy BG's boyfriend had been telling me about weeks ago, AND....that he is called J, and that he is my age. Did I lose you???
BG's boyfriend takes me aside a bit later and says "So....J really thinks you are cute. What do you think"? Well, J was quite cute and rather my type so I told BG's boyfriend this. J and I continue to talk, and guess who shows up? TEN. Oh yes he did. This shouldn't really be a problem for me because he is so young, and we will just be friends. However, for some reason I felt like a loser. I have TEN on one side and J on the other, and I just wanted to take a Valium and go home.
TEN leaves, and J and I continue chatting. When the party is over J asks for my phone number, and says he would very much like to get together in the near future. I say that I would like that as well. We both head home, and I get a text later Saturday evening from J saying that he most enjoyed meeting me.......and looks forward to talking to me soon. Excellent! Who needs MDC anyway!
While mingling with friends Friday night, the guy that invited me to the club (and insisted on the fact that Mr. Seersucker could be found there) brings up a guy to introduce me to. He was absolutely adorable, but obviously quite young. We struck up a conversation and I start giving him relationship advice (hysterical coming from me...I know!). Anyway we chatted for most of the evening, and then a group of us headed downtown for more drinks.
We ran into more friends who had been at another party, and what was supposed to be a subdued night turned into quite the opposite. Sometime during the evening TEN and I apparently had a photo shoot. I didn't realize this until I woke up the next morning and looked at my camera. The pictures were hysterical, and were TEN not TEN I would definitely like him in a boyfriend/girlfriend kind of way. As he is TEN...I'm making it my goal to find a lovely young girl for him to date because he really is something :)
Friday, April 17, 2009
Those of us who have some sense will most likely need to purchase this bracelet:
Perhaps I need to purchase the books to understand what a "crystal" heart and a silver apple have to do with Edward?
May the best team win (and by win I mean resist purchasing these ridiculous bracelets)!
It's supposed to get chilly tonight, so I'm throwing this J.Crew cardigan in my bag just in case!
And finally....my ears will be adorned with my extra-large faux pearls.
Thursday, April 16, 2009
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
I watched Twilight tonight. I don't think I took a breath throughout the entire movie. I am in love with Edward Cullen. I want to date a vampire. I'm wrecked for life :(
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
Monday, April 13, 2009
I'm not sure if you remember, but we have had extensive conversation in the past. Just as we were planning to meet, I realized that my friend The Real Housewife of Delaware had gone out with you while living in _________. I then shared with you that I had actually seen you in person on one of my trips to visit The Real Housewife of Delaware in ____________.
I feel sure that at this point you probably remember who I am. If not, let me further state that you look nothing like your photos. Not that it's any of my business at this point, but might I suggest posting some pictures of yourself from the last year or two? From a match.com dater's perspective...it really is a let down when you meet someone and they do not resemble their photos at all.
Best of luck in your search,
I think the e-mail was rather nice, and I've yet to receive a response. Quite frankly, I don't expect one. That's fine....as long as he stays out of my inbox!
Today's Inbox has 5 potential matches. Let's see what's what:
This guy's photo shows him in a suit hopping out of a fancy helicopter with a briefcase. Well, I think that's him anyway? I guess he wants us to know that he's rich and important? Or, perhaps he's a high ranking FBI agent? Let's see....nope. He's in sales/marketing. That's interesting. He also drives a fancy Porsche. Why do I get a creepy feeling about him? Well, he's just winked...so I will wink back. We can decide what to do with him later....
Hmmmmm.....(yes, I'm starting out with a hmmmm....). Here's the thing. He doesn't say much on his profile. He's just winked, but I'm wondering what he's all about. There is a lovely picture of him at a dinner table or something. He looks quite handsome. Then, there he is on his dirt bike. Hmmmm..... He also lives in some place I've not heard of, and he hasn't graduated from college. I'm not going to wink back.
Oh lordy. It's an e-mail, and it's a doozy:
"i a generaly a good person i like to spend time alone with the ones that i love . I have been a romantic in the past and got my heart broke several times . Now my world is about my children wich are 11,10&9. I try to be the best parent that i can though sometimes it is very hard. I have a son and 2 daughters. please write"
Sorry buddy, I don't think we are a good match. Bye!
Well, this is the e-mail I received:
"I'm funny and charming."
I'm not sure if he hit send before he was through? Or, if he thinks this is enough to win me over? I replied with the following:
"I'm not sure how to respond to that statement."
Let's see if we hear back from him!
He doesn't show his picture. I deleted him.
I'm afraid my matches are getting less and less interesting. Boo hiss to that! I've winked back at Match #1, and I've sent Match #4 a response. Let's see what happens. Maybe I will be writing you tomorrow from a fancy helicopter, as my boyfriend flies around with his briefcase selling and marketing things :)
laid back and easygoing = lazy and unmotivated
I could be completely wrong. I realize that. However, in my past dating experience the guys that I would describe as laid back and easygoing have also been lazy and going nowhere. Aren't we all laid back at times? Aren't we all easygoing at times? But to describe yourself completely in this manner is probably not a good thing. AND....85% of the guys on match.com describe themselves this way. Blech!
BFF decided that for this particular Friday night she wanted to go to a certain bar and listen to a certain band. The bar is awful AND the band is awful. Well, the band is actually talented and all that...but it's the crowd they bring. Blech! Anyway, I begged and pleaded....but alas....she won. I was able to convince her to go to a downtown happy hour for some martinis and such before we entered the land of the redneck (ie. mullets, jorts, etc.). She signed on, and we headed out for martinis. Two of our friends, Stevie and Pixie, joined us for happy hour. I love time with my girlfriends, and we all had stories to share and much to catch up on.
Fast forward to the awful bar. When we arrived we were told there was a $10 cover charge to see the awful band. Booooo..... I was digging in my purse to find $10 when the largest man I have ever seen in my life (who also happens to be the bouncer at the awful bar) states that if we all sit on his lap and take pictures, we can get in for free. Seriously? Yes, seriously. I looked at BFF and said "I believe I would rather pay $10". By this time she had a good buzz and says "No way! We are so sitting on his lap and getting in for free." She proceeds to drag me over to the largest man I have ever seen in my life and shove me onto his lap. Try smiling pretty for that one!
We got inside and huddled together. Almost immediately creepy people try to interact with us. We commence doing shots, and try not to have eye contact with anyone. After the shots have kicked in the band plays a few good songs. We made our way to the dance floor and tried to make the best of it. At one point I looked around and realized that I was surrounded by bra straps, chest hair, jorts and gold chains. I couldn't deal. I bolted. I'm a bad friend. I know. I just couldn't do it.
Friday, April 10, 2009
Thursday, April 9, 2009
He has just e-mailed me the following:
"what are you up to this weekend?"
I have to address this. I really do. I have to put an end to this. I will send him another e-mail, and I will figure out if there is a way to block someone from contacting you ever again. This is out of control. He hasn't changed a single one of his pictures, and he is still pretending to be cute. Why would someone do that? Don't they realize that if they put up pictures of themselves from 15 years ago, actually meeting them is going to be a let down? I try to make my pictures very realistic. Me with a pony tail. Me in a dress. Me in pants. Me with a beer. I mean THIS is who I am. I want you to be pleasantly surprised when you meet me. Not let down :(
I'm going to go craft a snarky response. I will let you know what I say!
Perhaps I would think this was somewhat cool and different (but probably not), if the following e-mail did not accompany his name:
"You are totally cute and you seem very nice and honest. What is a seersucker? If you consider yourself to be a seer, then that would be really cool. I don't know much about astrology but I do know how to listen, and I love to. I also like to be around positive people. particularly people who get excited about everything. Bored people are boring! I like conversation whether it's going out to eat or relaxing at home, but I can be an outdoor cat too! ;p Write me back if you want to talk =)"
How do I respond to this? What in the world does he mean by "if you consider yourself to be a seer, then that would be really cool". Perhaps I should reply and say...."what is a seer"?
So I Googled it, and a seer is:
Seer (unit), a customary unit of mass and capacity in Asia
I'm pretty sure he realizes that I am not a single unit of mass, and that I don't live in Asia. The only other choices were something to do with The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, and being on the show Charmed where a "Seer" is a deamoness that can see the future. Maybe that's what he thinks? Maybe he thinks I can "See" the future? And that I'm a deamoness. Ha! Wouldn't that be something! Hmmmmm....Perhaps I should e-mail him back and tell him that I "See" no future for us? No, that would be mean. I will just reply and tell him I'm not interested and to go away.
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
So, I'm opening up the floor for suggestions. Have you ever MDC dated before? Have any of your friends? If so, what worked? What didn't? Help me please :)
In case you need a reference point, here is my current profile "about me":
(P.S. Obviously the part about having a job that I love needs to be deleted!)
I am a true Gemini in every sense of the word! There are days when I stay busy from morning until night, and others when I want to just kick back and enjoy time with friends. Most important is that I surrounded myself with people who are positive and outgoing and enjoy life as much as I do.
I enjoy pretty much anything that brings me outdoors when the weather is nice. Spending the day at the lake is one of my favorite things to do in the summer. I 'm not one that you will routinely find in a gym...but I run and play tennis whenever I get the chance.
I have a job that I love and the best friends that anyone could ask for. I can honestly say that I am happy with who I am, and have accomplished the things that I have hoped to at this point in my life. There are still places in the world that I would like to see, and I would love to find someone to do this with. I would like to find someone who is first and foremost comfortable with who they are. Someone who I can fish from the bank of a river with, but who will also have fun at a black tie affair. Being a Hokie fan is definitely a plus. I love snuggling up in a blanket at fall football games! Motivation and ambition are key, but there needs to be a healthy mix of work and play. Someone who enjoys friends and is open to meeting new people is important as well. Most of all I enjoy someone who loves to laugh. I believe that a good sense of humor is one of most valuable characteristics someone can have.
Here is my favorite hot spots answer:
Depending on my mood I enjoy relaxing at ___________with friends, or dancing the night away downtown. I jump at the chance to travel to new destinations, but am always happy to come home to Smalltown, VA.
Here is my favorite things answer:
My favorite thing to do is laugh so hard I cry. You know...when you can't even catch your breath. It's the best feeling in the world! International travel is another fav. I went to Italy a few months ago....wow!! I'm ready for my next adventure:)
Not that this is the GREATEST profile ever, but it doesn't suck that bad. Does it? Yikes, maybe it does. HELP!!!
Well, this guy is actually a repeat offender. He's the one that told us a while ago that he is a "work in progress". Remember him? (If not click HERE. He is match #3 in this post). I questioned why anyone would point out that they were a work in progress at the time, and still wonder about that. Anyway, he's not a college graduate and acknowledges this in his e-mail to me. He asks me to give him a break on the higher education qualification. I'm not sure I can do that. Don't get me wrong! I certainly think that people can be very intelligent and successful whether they attended college or not. It's just that I know what college did for me, and how valuable that experience was for me.
This guy is from Smalltown, VA. Lived here his whole life. Travels within the US, and that's about it. Again...doesn't mean there is anything wrong with him, but I find that men I've dated with this M.O. usually disappoint me. They don't really grasp the concept that the world is a HUGE place, with many different cultures, and that Smalltown, VA is a pleasant enough place....but in the scheme of things....it's just a pin prick on the map. Perhaps I should meet him anyway? He's not bad looking, and states that he is 6'0". However, I'm beginning to realize that a guy's perception of 6'0" and the reality of 6'0" are really quite different! Anyway, he is 8 years older than me. Divorced, but no children.
He also notes in his e-mail that "I had thought I had sent you a "hello" message before, but I guess I've just had one too many of those drinks like you're holding in your pic...:)" That drink would be a beer, and I'm thinking he's trying to be funny? I didn't laugh, but that's okay.
Hmmmmm....I really don't know about this one. I'm torn. WHAT DO YOU THINK?
This guy lives somewhere that I've never heard of. I think it must be smaller than Smalltown, VA. He is divorced, 4 years older than me and has 2 kids. Girls. 10 and 12. He is sure to say "Ladies, you must be willing to accept my kids. If you can, then we are at good starting point :)". I think that's lovely. He apparently loves his children very much. I'm just not sure I want to be a step mom. I know I should probably change my profile to reflect that (currently it says "Not Sure" next to the Kids question).
He's a teacher (YIKES! We've just gotten rid of one and here comes another...just kidding!), and likes to travel to "new and different places". I guess that means that he would go back to Italy with me?
****Side Note - I've just asked MK where this place that he lives is and it's icky! Icky as in dirty and depressing. I don't really like that very much...AND...it's like 1.5 hours away. Boooo.
Okay, I'm not going to wink back at him. I just get this feeling when I look at his picture, and know that he has 2 daughters, and that he lives in icky town and .......well, that's enough.
Goodbye Match #2.
Aaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! Hysterical. This is truly hysterical. Okay...background. This guy winked at me and e-mailed me and all this other stuff back when I first started Match.com....or....MDC as Wendy from Wendy's Adventures in Lalaland refers to our lovely dating site. Anyway, he was really cute and even though he lives about 3 hours away, I winked right back. His tagline at the time was something like "Have tux, will travel". Pretty cute, huh? I thought so. Anyway, I'm e-mailing with him and liking him and considering inviting him to come to Smalltown, VA (to stay in a hotel of course!) for a visit, when I get the REAL story.
So, my friend Real Housewife of Delaware was on MDC back in the day. She lived in the city where this guy lives, and seriously went out with pretty much a guy a night while she was MDCing. (Real Housewife of Delaware is also the girlfriend who went out with Guitar Hero too!) I should have known to check with her. Thank God it came up in conversation before I gave him my phone number!!
So.......this guy's pictures are from like 15 years ago. He now looks about 50. AND...he has this weird tick where he flips his bangs every few seconds, but here is the kicker. He doesn't have any bangs! HA! Real Housewife of Delaware said it was so distracting she couldn't even concentrate on what he was saying. Not that she wanted to, of course, because he was absolutely terrible and self centered and thought he was the bee's knees...and certainly WAS NOT! The best part is that I remember her telling me about this guy and laughing about it. Then, when I saw her next I proceeded to flip my bangs non-stop until we burst into a fit of giggles. THEN...I went to visit her in the city where they both lived and saw him! I thought he was very unattractive, and we giggled some more. Never in a million years would I have guessed that he was this cutie that was winking and e-mailing me :(
So, I e-mailed him. I was honest. I told him that I had actually seen him while visiting his city, and that his pictures were not a true representation of what he looked like. I also told him that I was friends with the Real Housewife of Delaware and that I was no longer interested in meeting him. He didn't respond. I was pleased. I moved on. Never in a million years did I ever think I would log in to MDC to find he has winked at me again!!!! What do I do? Shall I click "Not Interested"? Or, should I just ignore him? Or, should I e-mail him and say "Are you serious, man? Are you really serious?" Hmmmm....I think I will click "Not Interested". I fear if I don't he will just keep winking :(
Oh goodness. Oh goodness. He's cross eyed. Really. He has one picture, and it looks like it's from Olan Mills and he's cross eyed. I'm sure he is a lovely person, but I don't do cross eyed. It makes me nervous :(
I'm not sure that there is any reason to go on, but I will....he shares the following information with me in rather abrupt spurts. (maybe it's hard for him to focus?):
"I am an old-fashion guy. I like the quiet life. I am not good with fixing things around the house and I don't know a thing about fixing cars. My whole opinion is if they don't teach at a university, I won't do it. (WAIT...WHAT?!?!?!) Shopping - I really don't like shopping. Favorite color - toss up between red and blue."
Wow. That's rather odd. It's like he's answering questions, but it's in an e-mail? Hmmmm....
Oh gosh. This is the best part. He's 44 and he lives with his parents. Wow. I think I'll just click the little "x" now.
How depressing!!! I guess I will e-mail Match #1 back, but I really don't think it is going to amount to much. Ho Hum. Perhaps I need to shake thinks up a bit? Change my profile a bit? My friend Daisy keeps getting all of these lovely matches! What gives?
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
However, you may find a post in the near future entitled "I QUIT MY JOB". Until then...you are spared :)
P.S. I may even log on to match.com today for a little inspiration....
Monday, April 6, 2009
I hadn't heard from him since our date at the Mexican restaurant. You know, the one where he proceeded to take my hand captive and attempt to rub it all over his face? Eeeekkksss....it still makes me shudder. Anyway, I was thinking that perhaps somehow he had stumbled across my blog and realized I wasn't interested and that would save me from another "break up" phone call. No such luck!
Lehrer calls Friday afternoon and states that he meant to call me, but got busy. This statement sent me into a fit of giggles, and I had to rewind the message because I was laughing so hard I missed part of it. I wonder what he got busy doing? Playing his online peanuckle games, and studying WWII and math or something??? hahahahaha....that still makes me laugh.
Of course I don't like Lehrer in the least....but....what if I did? I'm assuming he thinks I like him, or he wouldn't be calling. Right? I'm here to tell you that if I did like him, and he waited a full week to call me after our date, I would no longer like him. That's terrible :( If you really like someone you call them to tell them you had a lovely time and would like to get together again.
Anyway, he then proceeds to ask me out for that night. It was 5:00 when he called, and he's asking me out for that night?!??!?! He says that his German friend is in town, and wouldn't I love to come out with them and show them a good time? It might be fun, he says. Whatever.
I didn't return the call, and don't plan to. I am going to hope he doesn't call again. I'm going to wish upon the stars every night that he doesn't call again. But, if he does...I'm going to tell him the truth. I'm going to try to help him understand where he went so terribly wrong. I have absolutely no idea how it will go over, because I really think he is under the impression that he is the bee's knees, but I'm going to do it. It will be my good deed for the year :)
While catching up on blogs I like to read, I came across something that made me smile. Maybe smile isn't the right word. It made me feel warm inside and out. I needed that today:)
Do you ever read Post Secret? Sometimes it's really sad. Sometimes it's really funny. And sometimes....it speaks to me. That's what happened today.
Someone wrote in to say:
"I work in a college admissions office at a preppy private college as a student worker. Whenever I stuff the rejection letter envelopes, I slip in a piece of paper while my co-workers aren't looking that says, "you will be amazing wherever you go. I believe in you." I hope that the people who get them know I mean it."
I'm not applying to colleges...but it's the idea that sometimes a perceived failure isn't really a failure at all. I'm going to mull this over for the rest of the afternoon. Perhaps quitting doesn't mean you really gave up? Perhaps it means you have just outgrown what you are currently doing, and are ready for another challenge?
Isn't it always hard to have a lovely out of town visit, and then to come back to something not so nice? My job is the not so nice of which I speak. I've been with this company for 4 years. I've been a stellar performer, and have always been told I'm doing a good job. The person over my department is an idiot. Everyone knows it. Recently, the idiot brought 2 more people on board to my department...and conveniently inserted one of them between he and I on the organizational chart. So, I now report to her. She then reports to him. She drives me nuts, and isn't having much success in her role when it comes to selling. I think she resents that I am. That's all that makes sense. She just forwarded me my evaluation and it's terrible. Basically, I am an awful employee according to her. Hmmmm....very interesting.
I'm not opposed to constructive criticism. I never have been. None of us are perfect. We all need coaching and goals. I'm fine with that. However, this is is something entirely different. I also found out from my co-worker in London that the idiot was asking questions about me while over there recently. Even more interesting.
I've never been a paranoid person, but something is going on. I haven't done a bit of work today, as I've been stewing all morning. I think I want to quit my job. I know that probably sounds ridiculous in the current economy, but I think that is the best option for me right now. I will not allow myself to be beaten down by someone for no reason. Life is hard enough. I don't need some person (or persons) who aren't successful telling me I'm a crappy employee because I am. The thought of quitting makes me very sad because I have truly LOVED working for this company. I have loved what this company stands for. I have loved the vision of the company, and the company values. However, the idiot and my new boss are intolerable and I can't seem to make them like me.
An example of how ridiculous the idiot is - the year before last at Christmas he had a party for the department at his house. He wanted us to have superlatives for the team. Yep. That's what I said. Superlatives....like in high school. I won best dressed. Who cares, right? It was a stupid idea to begin with, and no one really cared. EXCEPT FOR HIM. He has continued to bring this up for the last year, and has said to other people within our department that he spends lots of money on his clothes and can't understand how he didn't even get one vote. It's stupid stuff like this that causes him to hold grudges against me. AND...it's getting out of control. He is now asking other department members about me. What do I say about him? What do I think about this and that? He even wrote on my last evaluation that I need to be friendly with everyone in the office...not just the people I like. WHAT?!?!?! It's not like I am mean to anyone. AND...it's not like I really socialize with work people outside of work. I think he just has an issue with me and it isn't going to go away.
When the idiot hired two new people for our department he promised an increase in sales as a result. This makes sense, right? Well, one of the people he hired (my equivalent) was a good friend of his. She can't sell anything. I'm not sure why...but she's failing miserably. She's a really nice person, and I do hope she has success soon. The funny thing is...I had to give her some of my clients when she came on board. They were pretty good clients, but she's having trouble even selling to them. Hmmmmm....
So, I'm the only person selling anything right now. I ended the quarter at 97% of quota. Not great. Not 100%. But...in the current economy this is considered really quite good. I expected a good eval because of this. WRONG.
I have enough money saved up to live for quite a while unemployed. I don't particularly want to be unemployed for a long time, but right now I think it beats the alternative. Am I crazy? Or, is my mental health worth more than feeling like a puppy who has been backed into a corner, told it was bad and beaten with a stick?